Fear of What will people think about me

-
Fear don't let us do what we want to. I always wanted to change that situation for me. I stopped myself from writing on many topics due to this fear. I was thinking what will people think about me if in the future I will not have same views as I have  now about the topic.

I have this behaviour of changing my opinion about some topics due to changes in time, situation and my knowledge regarding that topic and life. I think many will have the same behaviour.

The overall experience of life and our subconscious mind affect the thinking of person. And our subconscious mind is programmed to act automatically on many situations which we don't know about and even if we know but are not aware at that time when it's actually performing automatically without our control.

This is why even if we decide to do/not do something we fail in it. We can't even fulfill the promise we make to ourselves. We are not always be same as we were before. We will improve. I should instead of saying "improve" should say "change". Because it is the truth. We change and we should not lable it always as good or bad.

So instead acting fake I want to accept myself as I am. This acceptance will help me to improvise (yeah I know it shouldn't be labled) wherever it's needed.

Because whenever we ignore problems we think it's gone. We think problem solved. But in reality we are just making it bigger and harder to solve. Embracing and facing the situation and accepting the difficulty of solving the problem make us stronger.

This is why I face the situation and now don't have fear that what will people think. I may change my views and you can think whatever you want But it will not make me fake. I am not the one who don't change according to the situation and it will never affect my morals and ethics.

The complexity of Right and Wrong is not actually understood by all those people who are using it everywhere judging everyone without applying their mind correctly. I will just ignore all of them instead of having fear of them.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Carpe Diem

-
How many of us really live today like it is never going to be tomorrow. May be no one and that's why we feel boring and tired. If really it is our last day do we live it like to pass or kill the time. Even we work with the best efforts to get best result and get happy even before knowing the results as we have given our best. Love your family, give everyone a smile, help other and stop worrying. Enjoy every byte of your meal, get relaxed with nature around you, laugh like child and stop being fake. It is easy to say but not easy to be happy everyday with all new energy to live. But this one thought may help us. Past is gone, Future is unknown, You have only TODAY so live it like your best Holiday. You have to do your regular work as it is necessary but we can do it happily if we can get that we don't know about future so dreaming to be happy at future is not good. Be happy now as who know about future. Don't just wait for weekends or festivals to enjoy life and do it
Read more

Balancing & Gratitude

-
So, I'm just here to pour out my feelings. You can read and relate to them, or simply enjoy my words as they are. People often write about important matters but overlook the significance of happiness and health. Recently, when I fell ill and listened to Akshay Kumar on Ranveer Allahabadiya's TRS podcast, he emphasized not jeopardizing health for work. We tend to forget the importance of health, viewing it as secondary to material pursuits like cars, houses, travel, food, and clothes—things money can buy. The internet inundates us with FOMO, pushing us into a rat race for wealth. We constantly chase money, often at the expense of our health, assuming we can reclaim it later. Yet, we fail to realize that time, once gone, is lost forever. While money can't buy everything, health and time are invaluable. Even with wealth, health is not guaranteed—look at Anant Ambani. Living in the present moment is vital. While we must plan for the future, we shouldn't sacrifice today'
Read more

Break up Studies

-
You may always find happiness and excitement while learning new things but still you will get bored, annoyed and even hate the studies done for marks, degrees and money. As you will not only have to learn but also remember each and every thing from books and also write them as it is to get the marks. At the end you have to study but like me, many can't study for longer period of time or sometimes can't even start it (that's bigger hurdle sometimes that continuing study). Solution for the starting study is to just remember "why you want the degree" and then realising that it will only happen when you will learn and study. Remember learning is more important than study even though we do reverse. For continuing study I recently started using the below technique. I was used to pickup phone after I get bored with reading session of one hour (half sometimes). Instead of doing that try out these techniques. Listen just one song or play piano (any instruments) even from
Read more

Globalization is Going

-
Get ready to be National and non-international . You can see that most of the big countries who was pioneer for globalization is now focusing on development of their nation by being anti-international. They are trying to reduce the detrimental effect due to globalization in job, economy, power and influence etc. The trade barriers are coming back. This may happened as there was never equality or balance between the countries trading which is now getting bigger, deeper and unreachable in near and some what far future. I read many news on this in the last few days and today I watched few videos on acceptance of the difference. That how a person should socialize with most different and imperfect person for her/him as it give opportunity of even a dream job she/he wishing for. Also about stop to change other or yourself and start to accept everything as it is first. Be like water who change it self but only as per circumstances needed for the betterment of everyone. The conflict you
Read more

Study Goals

-
Is there any perfect way to be? Is there perfect method available? Whenever I don't achieve the desired goals for my studies I ask this to myself. I used to spend lot of time in planning. Nothing happened. I stopped planning at all. Nothing happened. I tried to be moderate and balance between the planning and execution but no results came. Ultimately the problem was defferent. I stopped focusing on results or desiring about perfect goals but still guilt didn't leave me. I never studied as I wanted. I thought a lot. I was focused on the concious mind more than subconscious mind. No, I am not going to tell you the power of subconscious mind. As it'll be of no use untill you yourself decide to do that. But I want to share one learning from Atomic Habit. We need to make the work so simple to start with that we can't avoid it at all. That's where we first fail. Second reason for the failure is our inability to continue consistently. That's where games and social medi
Read more

કર્મ

-
તમારામાંથી  દરેક  વિચારતા  હશે,  ભવિશ્ય વિશે,  ઈચ્છાઓ  વિશે,  મુશ્કેલીઓ  વિશે. બંધ  કરો  વિચારવાનું.  પેપર  અને  પેન પકડો.  પકડો!  અત્યારે  જ.  લખો. તમારી  ઈચ્છા  ભવિશ્ય  માટે,  મુશ્કેલીઓ અત્યારની  અને  પછી  દરેક  ઇચ્છા. પાછલ 'કેમ?'  સવાલ  લગાડો.  જવાબ  મલ્યો? તેની  પાછલ  પણ  "કેમ?"  સવાલ  લગાડો.  લગાડો... છેક  છેલ્લો  જવાબ  આ  મલવો  જોઇએ  "ખુશી  માટે".  જો  આ  જવાબ  નથી  તો  તે   ઈચ્છા  નથી.  કાં  તો  તે  જરૂરીયાત  છે,  કાં  તો  મજબુરી  અથવા  તો  તે  બીજા  દ્વારા ભરમાઈ  જવાથી  થયેલ  ઈચ્છા  છે. મુશ્કેલીઓ  જુવો  હવે.  કેટલીક  એવી  છે જેનુ  કંઈ  નહિ  થાય.  તેને  સાઈડ  કરો.  કેટલીક  જે  નાના  કીકલા  જેવી  છે  સાઈડ  કરો  એને.  હવે  લાગી  જાઓ. બાકીની  મુશ્કેલીઓ  દૂર  કરવા.  અશક્ય  મુશ્કેલીઓ  તો  એમે  સાઈડ  થઈ  ગઈ  હવે  બાકી  વિશે  વિચારવાનુ  છોડી  લાગી  જાઓ  એને  દૂર  કરવાના  કામમાં. ઘણી  મુશ્કેલી  દૂર  કરવા  કંઈ  કરવાનુ  હોતુ  નથી  બસ  વિચાર  કરવાનુ  છોડી  એને  ભુલવાનુ  હોય  છે  તો  કેટલીક  વખત  જરા અલગ  રીતે  વાત  સમજવાની  હોય  છે  પણ  બાકી  સમયે  તો  તે  દ
Read more

Instant Success

-
No, I am not going to give tips to get instant success instead I am going to request you not run after it. People think if they can't get instant success they got failed. Due to that they stop trying and never get success which they may have in future. They don't see the big picture. You can definitely get failure by not trying anymore or surely get success in future by trying. It may take time of years. Yes, years. As soon as people hear it they decide in mind to discontinue their work. But most of the successful companies/people had it after many years of their starting. Just as we got few instant successful people/companies (out of which many got failed afterwards) we assume it will happen with us, too. Simple thing ignored by many is: You will have to work hard, even harder many times, after success. We think like we succeed instantly and then work like retired person as if business/work will automatically run/done. We hate to work hard without success and make excu
Read more

CAN I DO ANYTHING?

-
હા તો પછી કેમ હું જે કરવા માંગું છું તે નથી કરી શકતો કારણકે આપણે કંઈ કરવા માંગતા જ નથી. હા આપણે તો બસ બધું મેળવવા માંગીએ છીએ કંઈ કરવા નહીં. સાદી વાત છે પણ આપણે પણ આળસુ જ રહીએ છીએ. નાનપણથી જ એ શીખ્યા છીએ કે કામ એટલે કંટાળો. કેટલા લોકો સ્કૂલે કંઈક નવું શીખવાની આશાએ ઉત્સાહ સાથે જતાં હતાં? કોણ કોણ એવું માને છે કે એના દ્વારા થઇ રહેલ કામથી દુનિયામાં ફરક પડે છે? કારણકે સાચે ને તો ફરક પડે જ છે. ભલે તમે માનો કે નહીં પણ કરવું કંઈ નથી અને જોઈએ છે બધું જ પણ હવે એક અગત્યની વાત. તમે આજકાલ ઘણા બધાને જોશો બોર (Bored) થતા અને ડિપ્રેશ્ડ(Depressed) રહેતા. આ બધા મહદ અંશે એ જ હશે જે આળસુ ના પીડ હશે અને સાચે ને એમને કંઈ ખાસ કરવાનું નહીં આવતું હોય. કદાચ જાણતા હશે તો કહેવા ખાતર કામ કરતા હશે તો ના બરાબર. મેં એકવાર પ્રયોગ કર્યો. શાંતિથી બેઠો અને વિચાર્યું કે જો હું અબજોપતિ બની જવું અને એટલા બધા પૈસા મળી જાય પછી શું? મેં એને અલગ-અલગ રીતે ખર્ચ કરવાનુ વિચાર્યું. મોટુ આલિશાન ઘર બધી જ સગવડો વાળો, દુનિયા આખી ફરવાની, પાર્ટીઓ કરવાની, પોતાનો મનગમતો બિઝનેસ કરવાનો , જે મનમાં આવે તે ખાવુ, જોવું, ફરવું, પછી લગભગ હું ફક્
Read more

How much Far Future you can see ?

-
One step OR one moment OR one minute. That's it. Not a percent more, not a percent less. We can't see future more than I said above. We can only imagine the future and in that case we can imagine anything but remember "Imagine". It is not truth at all. Still many believe in that imaginary future which make them depressed. Surety of happening something is limited. So let us start focusing on reality. Even though I say much you definitely imagine about future. Now analyze the facts: •You imagine future; •It may/may not happen; •You will be happy/excited/sad/worried/depressed. If you focus on Present then •You do what you should; •No wastage of time; •No depression still happy as you are doing your work. Time is everything you have . Repeat Time is everything you have. Nothing else. So please focus on it. And which time you have? I don't think it is necessary to say that " It is Present / Today / This moment ." Very common. Now advice
Read more

Falling for Loving Life

-
Image
If you didn't think the title is appropriate then take it as "Falling for Life & Loving it deeply". By the way do you know you are part of life. You Are Life. So at the end you are loving yourself with loving everyone else. How to do that ? Simply difficult. 1 . Start by accepting other (not judging them) 2 . Then accept your incompleteness (you and all are imperfect. accept it.) 3 . Now after this acceptance make a SMILE...... Do you think it is worthless? Think again because as soon as you start smiling the thinking in your mind stop. It happen when you smile actually. Same way when you genuinely laugh the positivity take the control in your mind. 4. Praise the genuine good quality of each person you meet and then also ask them with deep sincerity about any problem if they have. 5. Give and take. Sharing is the best way to live a happy life and if you feel problem in sharing 'Things' then share 'Thoughts'. Beautiful, Helpful, Trustwo
Read more